Everything I needed to know...

-
... I learned in DBT class
  • Just breathe
  • Live in the moment, don't worry about what is coming or what has passed
  • Sometimes, it is what it is
  • You don't have to like or agree with something to accept it
  • Opposites can exist at the same time
  • Always know where your blue donkey can be found
  • You always have a choice
  • There is always another way to look at something
  • Pain = Pain
  • Pain with non acceptance = suffering
  • Wise mind ACCEPTS, we can too
  • Make the moment better by improving it
  • Be compassionate and judge not - especially with yourself
  • All emotions are valid and always have a purpose
  • Keep your PLEASE Master happy
  • AND not BUT
  • Some people don't like releasing balloons into the sky and it is ok
  • It is ok to want to throw gasoline on someone and light them on fire, as long as you don't actually do it
  • Willing over Willful
  • You are not your emotions
  • You can ask for what you really want
  • It is ok to be sad
  • You are just as worthy as the next person
  • Do what you know, use what you have
  • Do something for yourself every day
  • Look for the good in things
  • Be willing to try
  • Emotions have a cycle, you can control the speed
  • Remember, you are never alone
  • Sometimes, try the opposite
  • Be mindful
  • Be happy
  • Enjoy living
Thank you for teaching me that I have it in myself to live, not just survive.

    Popular posts from this blog

    Never a failure again

    -
    October 15, 1991 was a Tuesday. I was a junior at EIU studying Journalism. I remember waking up that morning feeling overwhelmed to a level I had never experienced. My roommate left for class and I sat there looking at the clock calculating what the last possible moment could be before I left for mine. The minutes continued to tick away until finally I put my shoes on, went out to my car, drove home, and walked away from it all. I remember when I got home. I was asked why I was there and, now that I think back to it, my answer of "I'm not going back" may not have been the best statement to make. I was not on scholarship, yet I had enough grants that I was pretty much on a free ride. I was an honor student, smart and innovative. I pulled A's and B's with minimal effort. I loved learning and I loved the college environment. I had my educational planned out through a doctorate degree. It just could not be understood how I could walk away from a free education. It was...
    Read more

    No more numbers

    -
    It has been a pretty full afternoon. I finally slowed down about 8 while working on a friend's computer. I knew I had "stopped long enough to breathe" as I was hit with a wave of anxiety. I react to anxiety a lot different now. Instead of letting it overwhelm me and take control, I generally think to myself, "oh, well, look at that" and take a deep breath or two. That is what I did earlier. Just took a few breaths, acknowledged the anxiety, reminded myself that I knew what it was being triggered by, told myself I would address it later, then kept working on the computer. I was able to meet with my old nutritionist this afternoon. I am so glad I followed my desire to hunt her down as it was a great meeting. We caught up on things, talked about my getting healthy journey and surgery. When I was seeing her, I had been looking into surgery and my insurance at the time had so many hoops to jump through that it just became too much. Actually, that is why I started see...
    Read more

    Checking in

    -
    Hey Blewy Hey there. You've been sitting here a while, you ok? Yah, just looking around the empty gym and thinking. Will you share with me what is on your mind? Like, what do you know about this gym? Is it a familiar place or just a plain old gym? Oh, it is no ordinary gym, never been. This is the gym from my middle school days. Not sure why, yet when I have tried to imagine the rowdy kids and the loudness, this is where it is. Seems a little ironic as, even though I really did not care for middle school, a lot of great things happened in this gym. I played ball in this gym and 10 years later would return and coach here. Ok, so memories of PE class are not exactly top of the list, yet I will take all the ball ones. Band was up there on the stage, another great moment in time. I played flute then. You know, there was this room up top of the stage, like there was this door that went to some space that was above the locker rooms. We always wondered what was up there and even when I ca...
    Read more